There’s a part of you that still believes the lies: “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t deserve better,” “I’ll never be okay.” But here’s the truth—you’re not broken. You’re learning. And this letter is for that version of you—the one who still needs a little extra love.
The Lies You Believed
I know there were days when you felt like a mistake waiting to happen. When every failure seemed proof that you weren’t worthy of success. You blamed yourself for things that weren’t your fault. You stayed small because you thought big dreams didn’t belong to people like you.
“You were doing the best you could with what you knew then. The rest is just fear dressed up as truth.”
Why We Doubt Ourselves
We doubt ourselves not because we’re weak—but because we’ve been hurt before. Maybe someone told you no too many times. Or you tried and failed and started believing you’d always fall short.
The brain prefers safety over happiness. So it clings to the familiar—even if it hurts.
What I Wish I’d Known Then
1. Healing Isn’t Linear
Some days you’ll feel unstoppable. Others, you might feel like falling apart. That’s okay. Growth isn’t about perfection—it’s about persistence.
2. You Were Never Too Much
You were never the problem. The world just didn’t know how to handle your light. And now, you’re learning how to protect it.
3. Love Starts With Yourself
To My Past Self—and Yours
Dear past me,
I wish I could go back and tell you something: you’re not broken. You’re not damaged goods. You’re not too much or too little. You are exactly where you need to be.
You gave more than you received. You stayed longer than you should have. You believed the worst things about yourself because no one showed you otherwise.
But here’s what I want you to know now:
- ✔️ You were learning how to love yourself
- ✔️ Every step forward was progress—even if it looked like a stumble
- ✔️ The pain taught you resilience, even if you didn’t realize it
Inspiration: Oprah Winfrey once said, “You are responsible for your life. If you’ve created a life that causes you pain, you must take full responsibility for changing it.”
How to Reclaim Your Worth
1. Stop Punishing Yourself for Being Human
You made mistakes. You got hurt. You doubted. That doesn’t make you flawed—it makes you real. Start treating yourself like someone you care about.
2. Surround Yourself With People Who See You
Oprah also said, “Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher.” And she’s right. Let those who drain you go.
3. Build a Life That Reflects Who You Are Now
Your past doesn’t define you. It shaped you. Now it’s time to build a future that honors your growth, your strength, and your truth.
Final Thoughts: You’re Not Alone
If you’re reading this and seeing yourself in these words—you’re not alone. This journey is hard. But healing is happening, even if you can’t see it yet.
“You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” – A.A. Milne
💬 Reflect: What would change if you stopped punishing yourself for being human?
One thing that would change...I would be happy with the person I see in the mirror.
ReplyDeleteI just need to start believing I am a good person and good mom and believe in what I do truly helps people
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